Scared of Lonely?

    Everybody goes through problems in their relationship. No one’s relationship is ever perfect. That’s just life. But an extreme pet peeve of mine is when people are in relationships that are unhealthy & they know they shouldn’t be in but stay in anyway. We all know someone who is in a relationship right now that isn’t benefiting them in anyway. The question I always ask is why do you stay?  The only thing I can think of as a reason is that they’re scared to be alone. Putting yourself in a relationship that is not giving you any type of growth or even true love is just beyond stupidity. Being in unhealthy relationships only show what you think of yourself. It’s a mindset. Maybe you have insecurities that you don’t know how to overcome. You don’t feel pretty enough, you aren’t a model size, or people have always talked down to you & say negative things to you so you believe it. Maybe it’s a cycle that runs in your family. Your grandmother, mother, sister or aunt have all been in unhealthy relationships that you have witnessed & because they never got out of them, it made you think it was ok. WRONG! Why dumb down yourself just to fit in with your partner? No one can give you substance nor serve a purpose in your life if they don’t have substance & a purpose in theirs. I know people who were once doing good for themselves when they were single that are now not doing anything at all because of who they’re attached to. I’m not blaming the person they’re with, I’m blaming them. I’m blaming them for not having the common sense to realize that their relationship is not a good nor productive one. When you’re doing great for yourself & then you meet someone & you’re not doing as great as you were before you met them that should be your wakeup call. If your life isn’t increasing but rather decreasing than that’s when you should know to give them the deuces. Detach yourself from the things that are hindering you.  I’ll be damned if I’m going to be with someone who I allow to stump my personal growth & block my blessings. I’m not that hard up to be with just anybody so I can say I have somebody. Women as well as men need to learn how to treat potential partners as a job application. Meaning if they don’t meet the requirements then they can’t get the job. It should be that simple. Know your value. Know your worth.  Be in relationships that are positive, productive, healthy, balanced, build a strong foundation & have growth for you as a couple as well as separately. Always remember you deserve nothing but the best & never settle for anything or anyone less than that. Don’t be with just anybody because you’re scared of lonely.