Ladies since when has it become acceptable & a trend to allow yourself to be the other woman? I always say if you’re not the only one then refuse to be the other one. Why allow yourself to be second? I was raised to do my best to be first in any & everything I do. I also don’t like to share so why would I share a man? Being the other woman has become way too popular amongst women. Most women who are the “other woman” view it as a rush or thrill. They’re turned on by it because of the old saying “people want what they can’t have” so it makes it more appealing. When you’re the other woman that means that you’re not the first. His first is the one he goes home to at the end of the day or next morning once he leaves your house. Think about it, once he leaves your bed, he’s going back to the bed he shares with his main woman or possibly another woman’s bed. He gives you some time & loving, then once he’s done he leaves & goes home. You’re then left alone while he’s with his wife & family or girlfriend. How is being in this type of situation acceptable? You’re cheating yourself out of being in a relationship with someone who is going to be with you & only you. Now some of you may say “Oh he tells me he’s in love with me & is going to leave her to be with me”, “He says he’s at his happiest when he’s with me” or “Things are a little rough for him at home right now with his family so he wants to get things settled first before he leaves”. Its all BS excuses ladies. If the man is oh so in love with you & is at his happiest when he’s with you then he would be with just YOU! It’s just that simple. If the woman he has at home tolerates his mess & won’t leave him, then he’s not leaving her. Why would he? He gets to have his cake & eat it too. It’s all thanks to you because just like his woman at home deals with his promiscuous ways, so are you. You’re allowing yourself to be his second option & a man can only do what you ALLOW! Even if he was to leave his "main" woman for you, what makes you so sure he won't do to you what he did to her? It's called karma & it's no fun when it's knocking at your door. Always be a man’s ONE & ONLY. That’s the way it should be. Real & true love in a relationship is between two people, not three & up. Do better ladies, you deserve it.